Month: August 2012

  • Today i feel to write about Trust and my issues with it

    TRUST is defined as:

    1: reliance on the integrity, strength, ability, surety, etc., of a person or thing; confidence.

    There are many people you should trust

    Your Spouse: with your heart
    Your Parents: they will guide you in the right avenues of life
    Best Friends: share your biggest secret and never have to wonder if they will tell someone ( should be the way)
    Your kids: have to trust our kids because they pick our nursing home :p

     Trust your Spouse: Trust is probably the most important ingredient in building an intimate relationship between husband and wife. Trust is something that can be cultivated and nurtured if you will follow the guidelines below.

    I can sum up the essence of building trust in one idea: Create a safe emotional space for your spouse. If you are not actively working to build a safe emotional space, than you are probably building an unsafe one.

    Needless to say, an abusive relationship is one where there is no trust. The key to avoiding abuse and promoting trust is to consciously strive everyday to build a safe emotions.

    Constantly work on improving your communication skills.

    Develop the skill of being a good listener, which is one of the hardest skills to develop.Being a good listener means you don't interrupt your spouse. This requires great discipline and respect. Learn to ask, "Are you finished?" Always make sure you've fully understood what the other person has said.

    Communication is a big problem in a lot of marriage because life is so busy, more people text each other things they forgot to mention or didnt have time to mention, if they cant text they email, their is hardly any "spoken" communication anymore. It is the same for Hubby and I- communication is thru text or email. Sometimes i try to remember what life was like before technology like we have now, the days of hand written letters to penpals, or the days when you actually pick up a phone to call someone, now we text everyone that we can, even  my pharmacy text me when my perscription is ready.

    Trust with Parents:  Do you want your parents to trust you more, then show them you can be trusted.

    1. Stay on task. For example, if you are asked to do something by your parent do it right away without any questions and stay on task while you do it. A perfect example of this would be reading this article when you were asked to do your homework etc.

     

    2 Communicate - If you have something to discuss with your parents, make sure that you get it out and tell them. Respect each other. Do the best you can to become friends with your parents. Do things around the house for them, and let them share their opinions with you.
     
    3. Respect- This goes both ways. You need to give your parents respect and they should do the same for you. Recognize that while you may be in different positions and coming from different points of view, each deserves to be treated with respect.
     
    4. Truth - Lying is a horrible thing to do. If you lie, you're only making problems bigger, and if you lie, your parents will never trust you. This is a fact. If you've done something wrong, lying about it won't make matters better for anyone - including yourself - in the long-term. And it's the long-term that generates trust. There is an exception if you are an older individual who is responsible enough to make their own decisions and want to pursue life with what they believe is true to their individuality. Losing a parents support just because they don't agree with character and moral standards is not allowable, hence focusing on the common ground and being honest about that is helpful.
     
    Trust with Best Friends: If you have a close friend that tells you something, dont go and tell everyone, they told you because they trust you, if they wanted more people to know they would have told you.
     
    1:Consider your best friend to be loving and caring.

     

     2: Know that he or she always has their best intentions in mind.

     3: Know that people make mistakes and are human.

     4: Talk matters out when you begin to doubt them.

    My Best friend and I:

    I really could go on and on, because  Trust is a big issue in life these days, people dont know who to trust. Divorces happen because of no trust, business fall apart because of no trust, people stop going to church because they dont trust anyone.

    As a wife, i have a lot of problems with trust, he has NEVER given me a reason to once doubt his trust, my husband has never even said if a woman is pretty or not , i have low self esteem, always have, i want to say i am doing better but i am not so sure i am, i cause a lot of grief for him, i know that- i want to trust him

    I always think i am going to be alone forever ~ i always thought people were gossiping about me and i never trusted hardly anyone in school.
    this is a hard place to be, its a miserable life to live.

    How about you, How's trust for you?

  • For Yesterdays tour post click here

    Today is all about bedrooms-

    Our bedroom :

     this is the big window in our bed room- we have long brown curtains that are hung here

     this is a lantern lamp that matches everything so perfect

     

     
    our dresser and night stand

     

    next spare room :

     

     

    spare room will get a face lift soon.

     

     

  • Home tour part 3

    for part 2, visit here

    Today we will view:

    The Den

    as you come in the side entry which we are using mainly, you will see a book case, filled with my favorite books to read, Kingsbury has a shelf of her own. If you have never read anything by Karen Kingsbury, you really should.

    then to the right of that we have a closet where shoes and jackets are kept

    Then we have our couch:

    our pretty window, need some sort of window covering here, not sure what

  • Home Tour Part 2

    Welcome to our home part 2

    For Part one, visit here

    When you come in the front entry, you can either go down stairs or come up stairs to main floor living room and kitchne

     this is at the top of the stairs, you can either go into kitchen or living room.

    Here is the kitchen

      my small kitchen but i like it :)

    On the other side of the kitchen there is a ton of cook books, ya think id like to cook or something

     yes my purse is there too :p

    this is a favorite of mine, i really like how this is bulit in to hold special dishes etc.

    Here is our kitchen table- i will never again own a glass top table


     it is so hard to keep this clean and heavy to move.....

    Tomorrow Part 3

     

  • New House Tour

    Today i am giving you a tour of the outside

     

    this is looking in from the front of the house, really needs new siding- if we buy this house next year we will redo the outside of the house

    We have a lot of mature trees that grow in our back yard. so very private which is another thing i really like

    this is our new patio that was just built on a few days before we moved in.

    Come back tomorrow for more of the tour

     

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    Weekends are so much more fun here.

     

    Friday: we were invited to a girls swimming party at the Fredericton Indoor Pool. I spent all the time in the hot tub because the pool was too cold.

    Kathy spent time with us- she is so sweet, so glad we are meeting people here and feel at home,

    Brooke has met the neighbour kids as well- so very very happy.

     

    Saturday morning a friend from church called and invited me to brunch with another lady- it was so much fun and such good food at the Diplomat. I had an omellette with fresh veggies and toast and home fries. After that we said good bye to Judy and Teresa and I went to the Market- the market is all new to me, we didnt have market back in St John's, lucky to get fresh anything there, bc we are an island and everything has to be shipped in to them there, rarely does anyone grow their own veggies, here alot of people grow their own veggies and then go to market for fruit and anything else they want fresh. Some Farmers around too for their own beef, pork etc.

    Some days i think id love to have a farm but then i think of all the work involved and then think not, haha

     

    Sunday: we went to a new church in our neighborhood and it was so nice to be there, felt like the right one, Brooke went to Sunday School and came up asking if we can go there again, then the pastor and his wife took us to dinner at Swiss Chalet- which is my favorite place to eat ever, we hung out with them for a while then home to pack our clothes for a little mini road trip to our old Pastors house, we went there for the night to see them and also to see their daughter who was a bridesmaid in our wedding and it has been a long time since we saw them , so we went to their house and got ready for chruch there, then after chruch went to their daughters for wings and pizza- kids played so well together.

    This morning we had a late breakfast and visited more with Pastors wife (who loves to talk and so do i) then we said good byes and went to their daughters again because a long time friend of mine who i havent seen in years was there, havent seen her since before i was engaged, so much catching up to do! it was an amazing weekend and i am looking forward to seeing these people so much more.

     

    Today: Once home today we unpacked more and i had a head ache so i laid down to get rid of it- slept for a bit then ate some dinner and unpacked and organized more. Have i mentioned i love my house... will show a pic of my fire place just down below, more pictures will be coming as i get the rooms presentable for pictures. The neighbour across the street came over to meet us and brought us some fresh blue berries, now i'll have to bake something :p

    Such nice friendly people around here.

     

     

    Until Tomorrow

    xo Terri

     

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    There are no regrets in life, only Lessons...

    by Thought of the Day on Wednesday, 16 May 2012 at 09:23 ·

     

    Sometimes people come into your life and you know right away that they were meant to be there, to serve some sort of purpose, teach you a lesson, or to help you figure out who you are or who you want to become.

     

    You never know who these people may be – a roommate, a neighbor, a professor, a friend, a lover, or even a complete stranger – but when you lock eyes with them, you know at that very moment they will affect your life in some profound way.

     

    Sometimes things happen to you that may seem horrible, painful, and unfair at first, but in reflection you find that without overcoming those obstacles you would have never realized your potential, strength, willpower, or heart.

     

    Illness, injury, love, lost moments of true greatness, and sheer stupidity all occur to test the limits of your soul. Without these small tests, whatever they may be, life would be like a smoothly paved straight flat road to nowhere. It would be safe and comfortable, but dull and utterly pointless.

     

    The people you meet who affect your life, and the success and downfalls you experience, help to create who you are and who you become. Even the bad experiences can be learned from. In fact, they are sometimes the most important ones.

     

    If someone loves you, give love back to them in whatever way you can, not only because they love you, but because in a way, they are teaching you to love and how to open your heart and eyes to things.

     

    If someone hurts you, betrays you, or breaks your heart, forgive them, for they have helped you learn about trust and the importance of being cautious to whom you open your heart.

     

    Make every day count. Appreciate every moment and take from those moments everything that you possibly can for you may never be able to experience it again. Talk to people that you have never talked to before, and listen to what they have to say.

     

    Let yourself fall in love, break free, and set your sights high. Hold your head up because you have every right to. Tell yourself you are a great individual and believe in yourself, for if you don’t believe in yourself, it will be hard for others to believe in you.

     

    You can make anything you wish of your life. Create your own life and then go out and live it with absolutely no regrets.

     

    And if you love someone tell them, for you never know what tomorrow may have in store.

     

    Learn a lesson in life each day that you live!

     

    Today is the tomorrow you were worried about yesterday.

     

    Think About it? Was it worth it?

  • Sorry for my lack of posting, been so busy, Brooke and I have been on vacation for 10 days, we had no responsibilies, we were looked after hand and foot.  We were with my sister in laws parents and they are such an amazing couple, we moved into our own house last night, so now i am unpacking and cleaning. so much to do, good thing i have nothing that HAS to be done or working because now i can take my time and organize how i wish.

    Hubby has started his new job and is loving it so far. 

    we love everything about this amazing city, it is like home to us and we are so thankful to God to provide this for us. We are slowly but surely meeting people, everyone is so nice here, church is amazing here.

    We have decided i will stay home for a while and maybe make some defente decisions later, husband got a lovely raise for moving here so we can have me stay at home but there wont be money for extras, so who knows what the future holds.

    I will upload pictures soon i promise.

    Terri
    xoxo